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Kat Hossack's avatar

Love this. I recognize doctors are often so pressed for time and burnt out themselves, and yet as a clinician myself.. I often struggle with the argument of “doctors don’t have time”. Answering the questions you end this piece with doesn’t require more time than the current consultation average. It’s simply a shift in your way of being. In my work within minutes of intentionally sitting and listening to someone I can have a good idea of what threads we need to follow and what questions to ask. Validation and active listening take no more time that checking boxes and ordering tests. I wonder what our medical system would be like if more doctors brought back those rituals!

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Sarah Star Poet's avatar

Thank you for this! It's such a joy to read you columns. I greatly enjoyed reading about the effects of diagnosis and doctors' attitudes toward their patients and healing. I have an auto immune disease called lichen sclerosis that went misdiagnosed for years. Doctors thought I had herpes, overactive bladder, atrophic vulvo vaginitis. One kept throwing estrogen at me though the symptoms kept getting worse.. My pain and discomfort was dismissed as women's hysteria and all in my head and so on. Frankly, the doctors just didn't have a clue. I doubted myself and wondered if my hypochondria was in overdrive. But, I finally met a compassionate gyno who actually LISTENED to me and got a proper diagnosis.(Just recently she told me her mother has lichen sclerosis so, perhaps, this gives her extra knowledge and empathy). I was able to start treatment and get it under control and effectively treat the occasional flares. I've noticed that when I obsess and worry too much about it, and read up in chat groups about worst case scenarios I feel much worse and pretty hopeless about about having this incurable condition. Perspective is key. Anyway, great thanks for your words. So grateful to have found you.

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